My husband and I have had a volatile phone relationship in the years that we have been together. I don't know if it's him being too logical or me being too emotional... but I know that it for me, has been an issue.
With the new year right on the edge of our lives, I am trying to start a new, but small venture for myself: don't call my man, unless absolutely necessary. Three days down: 362 days to go.......
I have decided that even though we have the luxury of calling each other while he's at work, that it will just be better to not call him. There will be less conflict, less confusion and maybe we'll even miss each other more.
No more feeling like I am interrupting him at work. No more feeling insecure when his tone changes. No more of him misunderstanding what I am saying.
For him: no more interruptions. No more dealing with the wife misunderstanding what he's saying.
Today I had to ask him questions about something with our children.... I texted. It worked well, even though I still was feeling odd about "typing" something that would take 5 seconds to deal with over the phone. With texting, it took a good 15 minutes to get all the details worked out.... but he was riding back home from a place out of town and it worked out well enough.
Maybe this is wrong of me to think of as a solution, we'll see how it goes.....
~B
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