Confusion Abounds

Here is a "bumper-sticker" that I found on a friend's blog. She's obviously not married, or she wouldn't have had this "sticker" posted. She was explaining about her feelings about a male friend that she has, a guy who, she spends loads of time with and feels very much a part of his life/friendship and longs for love.

Oh, the days of mine when I was wishing and dying for the man of my dreams to become the man of my reality..... It was such an awful time. I was so obssessed with this man, it wasn't even cute.

I recall driving down a gravel road, crying, none-the-less (and being overly dramatic in a real sense) and listening to: "Nothing Compares 2 u." by Sinead O'Connor (I'm showing my age). As I was crying, I was crying out to God to enable me and this man to finally become a couple. Just something more than being friends, but not just a sexual relationship.

When I look back, it was me that needed to know what was going on in the relationship. I was in love and in agony and I would have rather not have his friendship, than to not have his undying love for me..... or would I? He needed to make it clear to me what he wanted, because for me, it was too painful to not be together as a couple. Hint to men: Let the woman you are close friends with know without a doubt right away if they ask if you are interested in being friends or a couple, it will save you a lot of trouble and irritating hints from the woman.

My story ended with a real beginning: Eventually we did fall in real love, (because there was a friendship that was very deep). We are still together; happy and deeply in love. But he forced me to take it slow. Something that was completely agonizing for me when it was happening, but something that I recall with gratefulness and wonder.

Again, hindsight is 20/20, right? I can see why he had me wait.... he didnt' want to lose what friendship we did have and he had just become a Christian and he didn't want to jeopardize the new life that he was trying to live with sexual temptation, etc.

Just thoughts, my friend, just random thoughts.

Take it real slow.

Enjoy the friendship and treasure these simple days.

If and when the two of you get closer, it will take a lot more gumption to keep the lines from being blurred. Stay on this side of safety until the two of you are ready for a lifetime commitment.

Just my thoughts friend,

B :)