Beauty is in the Hips?

I had a close male friend over on Sunday.

He jokingly/half jokingly went on a "personals" website and we were sitting around laughing at the women we could set him up with. Me with my high standards for him. Him just wanting to find a loving woman.

We got to talking and I mentioned one woman that we both recently met and I said how beautiful she is and I asked him if he thought she was pretty too-- he said, "She's pretty, but her butt is big."

I was embarrassed by his answer. I didn't know how to joke back about it.

We proceeded acting like two stupid little teenagers playing around on the net (don't worry, I have HIGH standards so NOTHING r-rated went on).

As he looked at the pictures of different gals, he would say something here and there, and the thing he said about the woman's rump stuck in my heart.

I talked to him somewhat jokingly, trying to get him to understand his "faux pas".

I asked him this: "What if you were to meet an average looking girl that had an average looking body and she was the most amazing wife in the world?" He asked me to introduce her to him, but until them he was only going to look at the "attractive" ones.

And so, my ever philosophical heart cried.

So many, many women are like ME--average. I am no stunner and I am overweight.

Looks are SO not where it's at. But my heart heard the message that my dear friend was saying and it stung.

Even though I am very happily married, it hurt me. I pictured all of these average looking women not getting ANY chance by so many men, and then we wonder why so many men remain single. I pictured a single me and hurt to think that someone would pass me by just because "my butt is big".

I shouldn't be getting after men so much, I know that there are just as many women out there not giving the average looking man a chance either.... but how stupid. Do you people think that looks stay around?

Looks fade. Hearts don't.

When I am ninety, no one-- NO ONE will be "checking me out".

And that goes for the MOST attractive person in the world too.

Looks fade. Hearts don't.

~B