I"m struggling right now with an article that I read on the internet news. I can't get my mind around this story, I can't see the "good" that the article is supposedly portraying.
Okay, so the article speaks of how this man, while his wife was in the hospital after giving birth to HIS child, was having an affair.
The article goes on to tell of how now this man is with this person that he had an affair with and no longer with his wife. How he explained to his wife and family that this is the way that it is meant to be..... with this other person.
He speaks of how his life is "more authentic" and he goes on to explain to the interviewee his life with his "new" love.
Sound nuts? Does this sound like something that needs to be paraded as something to be proud of?
I can hear it now: "Men all over the world are searching for their more "Authentic Life" and leaving their wives and children by the hundreds. They are leaving for a more "authentic life". Let's shout "Hurray!!" for them!
Huh? When did committment become a bad word? When did it become okay for someone to leave their wife and THREE kids for someone else? When did it become something that gets proudly displayed on the news?? What is going on in this world? Where in the world is it all headed. IS anyone willing to commit to someone for an entire lifetime, warts and all, even if it's not what "feels right"?
Good grief, if we are dictacted by our feelings, then hey, I'm leaving this house and four kids and running off with the man down the street. It's what I'm feeling, it's what my heart is telling me is fine and good, so it must be good, right? It's okay for me to follow ONLY what I want and not care for other people, right?
So what does Mr. Affair do when he feels like having another affair.... would he say that he was finding his other "Authetic Self"?
If I would follow every feeling I would ever have trying to search for my authentic self, I would be all over the map, I would never find a happy spot, I would constantly be picking up the posts and moving around.
Life is SOOO much more than one just finding their "Authentic Selves", we don't always and usually don't get what we want. It's not that easy and while we are finding these selves, what are our left-behind families supposed to be doing to find their "authentic selves"? Maybe they thought that they had found their "selves" with the person that they just had 3 kids with. Maybe that's what they had pictured as authentic, so who is right? Her wanting to be with him and the kids or him wanting to run off with another?
Ugh, people have spun out of control.
And we Americans are applauding it.
Link to article: click here.
~B
4 comments:
Who is this man-down-the-street? He won't be so good-looking after I bash his face in! -k
Who is this guy down the street? He won't look so good to you with his face bashed in!-kmf
I think sometimes people just get confused as to where their brain is located in their bodies;)
One of my favorite books that sort of addresses this idea is Surrendering to Marriage by Iris Krasnow.
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